I’m starting to realize it more and am learning how I just need to give myself permission to let things be easy, feel light and celebrate and just have fun.
Making my son’s birthday cake and cupcakes for his party was an opportunity I got to practice this.
I was really fixated on the idea of making Ninja Turtle shell cupcake toppers for his party which was inspired by a couple of YouTube videos.
Although I thought of alternate options in case they didn’t turn out, I still was feeling weight and perfectionist pressure for them to work.
When I was able to step back and recognize how stressed and anxious I was feeling about it in my body, I knew it was a cue that I needed to let go of control.
I had to tell myself as if taking a big sigh of relief “it’s OK. It will still be a great party no matter what.”
In that moment I gave myself experimental permission and turned to my son and playfully said, “You know what? We’ve never made turtle shell cupcake toppers before! So we can only do our best and see how they turn out. And if they don’t turn out, we’ll just figure out something else!”
That statement of my decision and adjustment of expectations relieved so much pressure. And my son was energetically on board with it too!
We were even starting to become ok with the idea of just ordering a cake to make it super easy, but I knew we’d be happier if our homemade cupcakes turned out.
I still wanted to try in a way that felt easeful and gave myself the space I needed of an entire day to create them.
Surprisingly and excitedly our chocolate and fondant shells were turning out well at the first attempt and I stayed in the energy of having fun!
Although we ended up needing to pivot and turn the cupcake toppers into cake decorations since they were too big — it turned out even better and made for such a cool little cake!
None of it turned out perfectly but I’m ok with that.
And you know what? This birthday party ended up being the least stressful party we’ve ever done for him. That’s a huge win for me.
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If you can relate and need it too — here’s your permission to let go of control, expectations, pressure and burden and lean into more ease and the lightness of fun and celebration!
Afterall, it’s these moments and better days that help us mend 💜
#betterdaysarecoming #hope #motivation #positivemindset